One thing clients often ask my advice about is wedding invitation wording, and many worry that they might be doing things the ‘wrong’ way. Well, good news! There is no wrong or right way to word your wedding invitations. Since every celebration is different, the information that you need to provide and the tone of the wording you use will vary. A lot will depend on whether the style of your wedding will be formal or informal, and you will know better than anyone whether you are planning a more relaxed type of day where the wording of your invitation can reflect your personalities, or if you want to keep things traditional. I often take inspiration from modern, casual wedding styles, so most of my House Collections feature informal wording, but of course can be easily customised to use formal invitation wording.
No matter whether you choose traditional or informal wedding invitation wording, there are a few pieces of information that should always be included:
Who is hosting: In traditional wedding invitation wording, the bride’s parents invite guests to celebrate the marriage of their daughter to their future son-in-law. Their names are usually written in full with middle names and titles included. For a modern style however, especially if the couple is paying for the wedding, they may choose to invite the guests themselves.
Nature of the event: Your invitation should state whether it is for the wedding ceremony and reception, reception only, or evening reception only. When the ceremony takes place in a house of worship, the phrase “request the honour of your presence” is traditionally used in formal wording, while “request the pleasure of your company” is used for civil ceremonies. However, if you choose casual wedding invitation wording, there are no rules. Some of the phrases you might use could be: “invite you to celebrate the marriage of”, “would love you to join them in celebrating”, or “invite you to share in the festivities”, but this is a chance to make it sound like you!
Location: Where and when the wedding will take place.
Date and time: For a formal wedding invitation, the date and year should be spelled out. For example:
Saturday, the twenty-second of June, two thousand nineteen, at two o’clock
For an informal invitation, you could use:
Saturday, 22 June 2019, at 2pm
RSVP information: This should include details of where the reply should be sent, as well as the deadline for responses. If you’re sending separate RSVP cards, you can of course omit this on the invitation itself.
Here’s an example of formal wedding invitation wording:
Mr and Mrs John Bennet
request honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Mr Fitzwilliam Darcy
on Saturday, the twenty-second of June
two thousand nineteen
at two o’ clock
and afterwards at the reception
Longbourn Estate, Hertfordshire
And here’s just one example of more modern, informal wedding invitation wording:
Together with their families
Elizabeth Bennet & Fitzwilliam Darcy
invite you to join them
for the celebration of their marriage
22 June 2019 at 2pm
Longbourn Estate, Hertfordshire
Dinner and dancing to follow
No matter which direction you choose to go, I’m always happy to help advise, so that we get the invitation wording just right for you!